Everybody gets stressed, it is a natural response produced by your “body reacting to a condition such as a threat, challenge, or physical and psychological barrier.” Some days are worse than others. Some days it may seem like your never going to feel relief. The bills keep coming, you are going through a divorce, you have serious financial problems, work is becoming too much, you are not sleeping at night because of stress, and the list can go on and on. Now those are big stressors in life but there are also so many other little problems that can make you stressed. You wake up late one morning so everything you do that day has to be rushed, you have unexpected guests and the house is a mess, your car won’t start, you forgot your homework………. Life is stressful and there are so many things that can make you stressed.
Stress is not good for the body, especially long-term stress. It can lead to so many health and psychological problems that can plague you for a long time. “If you’re living with high levels of stress, you’re putting your entire well-being at risk. Stress wreaks havoc on your emotional equilibrium, as well as your physical health. It narrows your ability to think clearly, function effectively, and enjoy life.”
Your sitting in bed and you realize that it has been awhile since you enjoyed life, since you went out with friends, stayed up till 1 a.m because you wanted to, laughed till it hurt and had a ball enjoying life. When was the last time you were not stressed? When was the last time you enjoyed doing something? When I become stressed I go into shut down mode, I am quiet, not smiling and not happy. I don’t want to waste days on days being stressed, I want to get out and have fun, and many people feel the same way. That is why when I become stressed or I feel it building up I sit down, relax, light a candle, eat a healthy meal, watch a show or movie that I want, hang out with friends, take a long and relaxing bath, go for a run, walk….
“Effective stress management helps you break the hold stress has on your life, so you can be happier, healthier, and more productive. The ultimate goal is a balanced life, with time for work, relationships, relaxation, and fun—and the resilience to hold up under pressure and meet challenges head on. But stress management is not one-size-fits-all. That’s why it’s important to experiment and find out what works best for you”
How to identify the sources of stress in your life
Managing stress is the first step to being rid of the awful weight it puts on you. “While it’s easy to identify major stressors such as changing jobs, moving, or a going through a divorce, pinpointing the sources of chronic stress can be more complicated. It’s all too easy to overlook how your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors contribute to your everyday stress levels. Sure, you may know that you’re constantly worried about work deadlines, but maybe it’s your procrastination, rather than the actual job demands, that is causing the stress.
To identify your true sources of stress, look closely at your habits, attitude, and excuses:
- Do you explain away stress as temporary (“I just have a million things going on right now”) even though you can’t remember the last time you took a breather?
- Do you define stress as an integral part of your work or home life (“Things are always crazy around here”) or as a part of your personality (“I have a lot of nervous energy, that’s all”)?
- Do you blame your stress on other people or outside events, or view it as entirely normal and unexceptional?
Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining it, your stress level will remain outside your control”
Avoid things that make you stressed
This may seem like a no brainer, if working makes you stressed take off of work for a few days. But this is not all together true. Sure you may feel some relief by not working for a few days, but in your time off the anticipation of having to go back to your job in 2 days is going to make you stressed. So your “down time” “stress free weekend” will turn into no down time for your mind to relax and a stress filled weekend. The key to managing stress is to go right to the root of it. If work makes you stressed find out exactly what it is in work that is doing this. If it is a case you are working on then voice your thoughts to your boss and fellow colleagues and ask for their help or if you can avoid the case all together. This rule applies to everything. Express your opinion to your boss and colleagues, tell them what is making you stressed. If you are having trouble finding the root of the problem go through everything in your life, when did the stress start? What was going on during that time? Did you take on any new projects? ……..
Once you find the source then you can piece by piece express your feelings, you may find some relief there. Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behavior, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, you’ll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground. Practice gratitude. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts. This simple strategy can help you keep things in perspective.
Step by step you can eradicate the stress from your life and begin enjoying it again. Find things that make you happy, avoid things that make you sad, go out with friends, laugh, and little by little your stress will go away.
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